The 10 Text Messages That Make Men Want You

There are certain text messages you can send to make men want you.

Texting and dating go hand in hand these days. I’ve been studying the connection between women who have mastered texting and those in happy, healthy relationships and I’ve uncovered ten text messages that make men go wild with desire. All you have to do is copy and paste.

These Text Messages Make Men Want You


I’m here to help you find love and make texting easy at the same time. The text messages that make men want you aren’t secret. I guarantee you’re using at least one of these without even knowing.

But if you can recognize when and where to use each and every one, you can make men chase after you wherever you go.

1. “I have to run, just about to hop in the shower”

Unsurprisingly, making men picture you naked is a great way to make them want you. Most guys will see what you’re doing with this text but it will only make them want you more.

Use this early on to catch his attention. It’s a bit of a flirt and run. It’s a great way to titillate without it leading into overly sexy territory. Always leave them wanting more!

2. “How do you know all this?”

If I know anything it’s that men love to share their knowledge with women. The ancient desire to provide women with food and shelter has changed in the information age.

Telling you about a movie they like or some current event activates the same part of their brain that bringing home a wooly mammoth used to. With this in mind, show him that his intellect and depth of knowledge isn’t going unappreciated.

The 10 Text Messages That Make Men Want You

3. “You were amazing last night”

Remember that desire is a two-way street. He needs to know that he turns you on and that your time together leaves a lasting impact.

This is a great way to compliment him early on without raising any red flags about moving too fast. Show him that the feeling is mutual and that you can’t wait to get him into bed again.

4. “You always make me smile”

They’ll never admit it but men make so many of their decisions in hopes of making you smile. Let him know it’s working and he’s going to want you more and more.

This creates a positive feedback loop that’s bound to draw the two of you closer together. This is because it activates the part of his brain that’s associated with excitement and desire.

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5. “I was just looking through your Instagram and not gonna lie, you’re lookin’ fine”

This is a cute text to send at any stage of the relationship. I’ve seen women use this one to go from platonic friends to dating. It’s about letting him know that you’re attracted to him in a silly, fun way.

This is pretty unabashed flirting but it’s not too serious so if he’s not interested he can just laugh it off. No harm no foul. It’s also a great text to send when you two are already seeing one another just to brighten up his day.

6. “How do you feel about…”

Text messages that make men want you don’t have to be shallow or simple. If you two are in a good rhythm, then asking him specific questions about his likes, dislikes and opinions will make him open up even more.

This shows him you truly care about what he thinks and feels which is so important to men.

Opinion and judgment is something that men consider an important part of their personality so showing him that you also care about it will help cement your bond.

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7. “You’re not like other guys”

Be careful with this one. It shouldn’t be a putdown to other guys but rather a compliment to him. Chances are there are things about this guy that sets him apart, or why would you be dating him?text-messages-that-make-men-want-you

Simply identify these aspects of his personality and shine a light on them. Men want to feel special just like women do and if you can make him feel special, he’ll be yours.

8. “How about we skip dinner tonight and do something naughty instead?”

Don’t just tell him you want him, show him you can’t keep your hands off him. Men don’t simply want sex, they want you to want it too. This text shows that you’re not only horny, you’re low maintenance and you’re spontaneous. What could be better?

9. “It’s not the same without you”

It’s impossible, and inadvisable, to be together all the time. Texting helps bridge that gap, especially early on in dating. I always advise women to keep busy and have an active social life outside of their relationship. This is a major part of modern texting etiquette.

Sometimes this will mean that you two don’t get the time together you want. When you worry this is starting to happen, let him know that you’re missing him. This is a great opening line that can easily lead to him asking you out on a romantic date sometime soon!

10. “Have fun with your friends”

I’ve seen so many relationships fall apart because one or both parties expected too much from the other person.

Having a healthy social life outside of the relationship is vital to building and maintaining love. Otherwise, you foster co-dependence and resentment.

That’s why you need to make it crystal clear that you support him spending time with his friends even though it means less time for the two of you together.

Be enthusiastic and genuine in praising his friends and their shenanigans and watch him get hooked on you.

The 10 Text Messages That Make Men Want You

About Amy North

Amy North is a women's relationship coach and best-selling author from Vancouver, Canada. Her high-acclaimed programs include "Text Chemistry" and "The Devotion System", both of which have helped thousands of women from around the world find (and keep) the man of their dreams.

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